you can tell the stepmother to stop doing thing for your daughter and that it was your plan to do it not her. I think that is a completely wrong assumption. Mr. Robert Jason De Groot (Unclaimed Profile). It doesnt matter what rules the other parent sets in her house, she does NOT have any say in your house. Boundaries should be reviewed and adjusted as needed, based on the situation and the familys dynamics. We are being taken advantage of, we arent being appreciated, we arent being valued, we arent being seen. An example of data being processed may be a unique identifier stored in a cookie. It is better to listen with an open and empathetic ear and be a source of support for the child who is going through something difficult with the other parent. However, in general, step parents do not have the same rights as birth parents. Well, this is a great discussion area for the childs parents to exercise co-parenting and not leave it to a judge to make the decision. These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously. it just because she is married to your ex- she is jealous of the way the daughter is in the house hold she tell people lie that it was her's she sure have say step daughter instead of my daughter . All rights reserved. Sanjana is a health writer and editor. I'm just saying - maybe that stepmom saw an obvious lacking in care for the kids there's always two sides. 1. stepmother WHERE ARE YOU GOING? How to handle an overstepping mother-in-law - Today's Parent THIS IS THE WRONG DIRECTION!! A Bad Stepmother Oversteps Boundaries. In the same way that a stepmom is entitled to her boundaries, so is everyone else in the stepfamily dynamic. Your stepchilds parents will have boundaries, and you dont get to decide if those are fair. You simply have to respect them. It also suggests some strategies that can be helpful for stepparents, to avoid overstepping a stepchilds boundaries. One of the most difficult aspects of foster care is setting boundaries with birth mothers. It is important for the kids to have a close bond with both parents and it could become a significant family problem if you as the stepparent have a problem because of that.